A Nigerian lady has ignited a firestorm online after boldly claiming that Nigerian men in Canada have stopped dating Nigerian women, choosing instead to pursue women of other nationalities. Her emotional rant, captured in a viral video shared by Instablog9ja, has sparked a nationwide debate on dating preferences, financial expectations, and cultural identity within the diaspora community.
“Nigerian men don’t date Nigerian women in Canada anymore,” she said. “They go after other nationalities like we’re not good enough.”
She then flipped the conversation with a controversial question:
“Put yourself in the shoes… If you were a lady, would you want to date a broke Nigerian guy abroad? What’s the essence of dating a man who has nothing going for him in a place like Canada?”
The comment triggered intense online reactions, with some users supporting her for “speaking the truth,” while others accused her of being “judgmental” and “materialistic.”
But the debate escalated when another user, @UGOOOTWEETS, jumped into the thread to drop some hard-hitting context.
In a detailed post, Ugo shared:
“You ask a Nigerian babe abroad to go on a date, and she’s expecting you to book an Uber, pay for a babysitter, take her to an expensive restaurant, buy her groceries and fuel her car — all in one night. How many men can sustain that?”
He continued:
“You won’t contribute a dime, but expect a man working 14-hour shifts to carry your whole life on his back. That’s not dating — that’s spiritual warfare.”
The thread has garnered thousands of reposts and sparked broader discussions about unrealistic expectations, gender roles, and financial pressure faced by Nigerian men abroad.
One user replied:
“This is exactly why some Nigerian men are walking away from their own women. They feel used, not loved.”
Another fired back:
“So because you’re broke, Nigerian women should reduce their standards? Work harder or leave them alone.”
The entire conversation, now trending under hashtags like #DiasporaDating, #BrokeMenAbroad, and #NigeriansInCanada, is exposing the cultural clash between traditional dating ideals and the economic realities of life overseas.
As emotions continue to run high, one thing is clear: this isn’t just about dating — it’s about expectations, respect, and the evolving definition of partnership in the Nigerian diaspora.
Shola Akinyele
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